We live in a neighborhood where most people are very friendly and take pride in maintaining their homes – except for the person across the street from me. The lady who owns the house is okay, but her adult niece and her children live with her and have turned the house into a complete dump. Her string of live-in boyfriends have turned the yard in to an auto junk yard – with cars up on blocks and even an old, broken vending machine just sitting in the driveway for months – and she spends almost every day and night (usually till about 1am) sitting in her yard in age-inappropriate clothes chain smoking, drinking and having loud, profanity-laced conversations with her friends that are hard not to hear.
All that aside, I have always been polite to her, as well as to all my other neighbors. I help her elderly aunt with the trash cans in bad weather. For Halloween, I put special trick-or-treat baskets together for all the neighbors’ kids and at Christmas I drop a card and cookies off to everyone.
Her older daughter is very polite and always asks me to her birthday party, so I make sure to drop off a gift for her every year. When her kids are selling raffle tickets for school fundraisers or girl scout cookies, I always happily buy a few. I have even babysat for her (at no cost, of course) several times when she needed to run out abruptly. Most of the neighbors are so disgusted with her that they don’t even acknowledge her but I, being the newbie on the block (now I’ve been there about three years), I started with a clean slate with her and we’ve always made friendly conversation when we see each other. I looked the other way on the fact that she leaves party decorations up in her yard for weeks, till they get washed down and blow all over my yard for me to clean up, or the fact that she lets her kids draw in chalk all over my driveway when I’m not home.
For the last 8
months or so, I’ve hit my breaking point with her. Her friends have been parking in front of my house every single day – even though there is more than enough parking in front of her house for them to park there (I guess they just don’t want to take 2 extra seconds to turn their cars around). I ignored it for a while but last winter we had a lot of snow and they continually blocked my walkway, making it difficult to shovel & access the mail box, and all summer they took up all my parking so my frie nds had nowhere to park when they come over. Plus, quite frankly, I just don’t
like the way it looks and it seems totally unnecessary. I work hard to afford my house and I feel like I’m being walked all over. Plus there is an influx of cigarette butts and fast food wrappers on my lawn – none of which are mine.
Although it’s not against any laws to park there, it’s just not something that people in my neighborhood do (everyone has plenty of their own parking…as does this person). I spoke to her friends at the beginning of the summer (after they had left their cars there for two straight days to go away for the weekend…during which time I had a BBQ and no place for my guests to park) and very politely asked them to park in front of her house. I have also spoken to her aunt about it. Despite attitude and eye rolls, they moved for a few weeks but for the last month they have been there again every.SINGLE.day.
Yesterday I walked by her when walking my dog so I stopped and politely mentioned that her friends have been – and were at that very
minute – parking in front of my house every day. She got in my face yelling at me, repeatedly telling me it’s a free country and she’s a f*cking mother so not to tell her what to do and that I’m a b*tch, etc. and giving me the middle finger. I have NEVER been talked to like that and I pointed out that I have always gone out of my way to be a courteous neighbor and went above and beyond to be accommodating, and I’m just asking for some courtesy in return – to which she continued to swear and tell me I can’t make her do
What can I do?? I love our house and neighborhood and now every time I see her friends pulling up in front of my house I know it’s deliberate disrespect (not just people who are oblivious to courtesy). I don’t want to do anything to make the situation even more hostile, but it’s not fair to be treated like that at my own home!
Boris Knott replies-stories are usually edited for length but this one was so well written that we published the whole story. Any suggestions on how to deal with this rude neighbor?