My neighbor is completely clueless and just does not get it. Personally, he is too judgemental and feels he knows everything there is to know about someone.
My wife and I bought our house about 2 years ago and love the area. Her sister is right around the corner and family is really close by (that can be a bad thing at times). In the beginning we were talking with our neighbor and everything seemed fine. A few months passed then one day I was working on a project in the garage for our bathroom when I noticed that my neighbor was out in the street taking pictures of the property line. I asked him if I could help him with something and he asked if the fence was the line. I replied very nicely that I was not sure but I have the original survey if he wanted to take a look. He quickly snapped at me and told me that we should stay off his property. Mind you we have really never stepped foot on his property at all. His argument was that my father-in-law cut the grass one time on their property.
A couple months past and my wife and I were expecting our first baby. We ended up losing our son full term. The day of our service, my father was being nice and was going around to the neighbor’s houses to let people know that there were going to be lots of cars coming and going because of our loss. My neighbor immediately snapped at my father and swore he would call the cops and that my father needed to get off his property (he is a renter mind you, and yes, I know they have rights). Luckily my father walked away being the better person.That was another incident.
Finally, and this is just recently, I have been trying to be nice. I have smiled and waved, said hello and everything. I strive to be that likeable person. Well, he confronted me about it asking why I say hello knowing that he would never respond. I told him because it makes me feel good to say hello and be neighborly.
At this point, I hate working in the front yard, seeing this guys ugly mug and I despise getting the mail and trash cans. I have given him a chance to get to know me and I be neighborly but he threw it out since he has already cast judgement. I just find it hard to be nice to someone and I really find it hard to ignore someone who thinks I am some skin-head, tattooed racist when just because I am bald and have tattoos means nothing. I am one of the most easy going neighbors and would love to have everyone over for dinner in the neighborhood if I could or have those block parties like some neighborhoods have. For someone who thinks I am otherwise scum, it bothers me to no extent and he is pretty much justified in his rudeness because it gets to me. I am nothing of what he thinks I am. So killing him with kindness…it does nothing for those that are a lost cause and completely clueless.